There are men out there who will respond to your text messages. Men
who will initiate conversations because they simply can’t wait to see
what you’ll say next. There are men who will never be too busy or too
preoccupied to wish you good morning, regardless if you’re a country or a
block away. Men who remember to call when they say they will – because
they want to – and those who surprise you with their curiosity about
your sometimes monotonous days. There are men who aim to be the last
person you talk to before you sleep and the first name you see on your
screen when you rise. Men who show up on time – or even early – men who
are genuinely excited to see you.
There are men who want to go on dates. Real dates. Men who want to
take you out to their favorite restaurant and will never expect you to
pay, but always appreciate the gesture. There are men who want to talk
to you for longer than one drink after work, and longer than what’s
enough to get you upstairs. There are men who you won’t have to convince
to see you. Men who aren’t purely motivated to be your sexual company,
but just love being around you. There are men who won’t wait three days —
or even three hours– to ask you out again. Men who have grown past
games and cryptic messages that you don’t have time to decode. There are
men who simply, truly just want to get to know you.
There are men who want to hold your hand in public. Men who enjoy
walking around department stores shopping for things they can’t afford
but love the feeling of your tiny fingers interlaced with their
adorably-bony knuckles. There are men who love sitting next to you on
the downtown train just so they can look at your face, even if they
notice the uneven lines and imperfect skin in the terrible lighting,
because they can’t imagine another way to spend their Saturday
afternoon. Men who wish they could capture the wonder on your face when
you see a new part of the city you didn’t know you loved, but now do.
Men who want to show you off to the strangers on the street because they
find you so incredibly intoxicating. There are men who are happy to be
seen by your side, thankful to be someone you chose to roam about town
with.
There are men who want to be your boyfriend. Who are totally excited
to introduce you as their girlfriend to their friends, to their
families, to the women who try to pick them up in bars. Men who aren’t
unavailable, who are ready for a relationship, who aren’t ripe with
excuses why the timing or the situation, the feeling or the possibility
just isn’t right. Men who don’t blame yesterday on their immature
inability to develop something today and imagine tomorrow. There are men
who wouldn’t pass on the chance to be yours because they know how
amazing – how special – how superbly wonderful you are, and that they’re
lucky you want to be with them, and only them. There are men who don’t
hesitate on title changes or commitment. Men who want to grow with you
and learn with you, love you the best they can, be with you as long as
you allow them to. Men who don’t reply “thank you” when you say those
precious three words. There are even men who say that incomparable
phrase first, not second.
There are men who are proud of your successes, not intimidated by
them. Men who are amazed by your determination and passion, who see the
things inside of you that you can’t notice yet, or decide to ignore.
There are men who believe in your future as much as they believe in the
world you can create together. Men who want to witness your bad times
and your good, be there when you fail and celebrate when you find that
sense of belonging that we all look for, but never know quite what it
means until we stumble across it. There are men who know to buy yellow
tulips and kiss your forehead when you’ve had a rough day, men who
remember you don’t ever take advice in the worst of situations, but
you’ll want to hear it in the morning. Men who remind you of all the
things to come and promise to be there when you get to the top of that
mountain you’re climbing. There are men who really mean that and are
there at the peak. And in the valley.
There are men who listen. Men who linger on each and every word you
say because they know they will never know too much about you, and are
intrigued to always learn more, regardless of how long they’ve known
you. There are men who have the ability to put your needs before their
own, who remember the first time they noticed something different about
you. Men who like the way you look right after a long shower or a night
run, when you’re dressed to go out and when you’re in your sweats from
college. Men who see your insecurities but find them only a small part
of what makes you beautiful. There are men who will remember your
birthday, the day you met, the moment they knew they loved you and when
you made them want to be a better person. There are men who love your
thoughtful heart as much as they’re turned on by your soft body. Men who
know how hard you like it, what part of your neck gets you going and
that sometimes, you really just need to be spooned until you fall
asleep. There are men who will accept you for whatever you are, whoever
you are, whenever you decide to be that person in that place. Men who
will stand by you – and fight for you – because they know you’re worth
it. Because they know you’d do the same for them.
There are men who will spend weeks, months or even a year planning
the perfect way to propose. Men who not only realize how special that
moment will be to you, but how important of a story it’ll be to the
children you don’t have yet. There are men who want to watch the
wrinkles form around your eyes and especially around your mouth, because
they’ve spent decades listening to that laugh they love come out of the
sweetest smile they’ve ever seen. Men who will leave you notes by your
morning coffee or send you sweet – or dirty – text messages at work,
even after you’ve been married fifteen years. There are men who will
adore all of the things that make you a woman, even when those things
bear babies instead of nights of sexual release, even when those things
drag instead of rise to occasions. Men who will always remember what you
looked like that day you walked toward them in a white gown with
glitter on your eyes and the purist of hope in your heart. There are men
who truly, honestly, completely will love you.
There are so many men out there. But you’ll never meet them if you
don’t let go of the guys you really don’t want to find the men you
really deserve. The men who are waiting to meet someone just like you.
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